If you are ending your marriage, you likely have a million questions and feel overwhelmed with uncertainty. One thing you might be worried about is how you will ever get through the process. One option you will want to think about is mediation.
Before you make any decisions in favor of or against mediation, we want to clear up four common mediation myths that could be holding you back from finding the best resolution for your family.
Myth #1: Mediation is only for couples who get along
Reality Check: You don’t have to be best friends to try mediation. You don’t even have to like each other. The key is that both parties are willing to come to the table and try to communicate respectfully. Mediation simply provides a structured environment to have productive conversations, even (or especially) when emotions are running high.
Myth #2: Mediation won’t be fair
Reality Check: Many people worry that one person will “get their way” in mediation, leaving the other at a disadvantage. In reality, a trained mediator acts as a neutral facilitator. They ensure each party has an equal opportunity to share their perspective and needs.
You can also consult with your own attorney throughout the process. This means you can protect your rights and interests while still working toward a mutually acceptable agreement.
Myth #3: Mediation won’t be effective
Reality Check: You might think going through the court system is the only way to get things done, but mediation can be just as effective. Why? In mediation, you’re not bound by strict legal rules. You can develop unique solutions that work for your family’s specific needs.
This flexibility often leads to agreements that both parties feel good about, which means they’re more likely to stick to them long-term.
Myth #4: My case is too complex
Reality Check: While it’s true that some cases are not suitable for mediation, many people underestimate what can be achieved.
Don’t rule it out just because you have complicated finances, parenting disagreements or a long history of conflict. A skilled mediator, often working together with attorneys experienced in family law, can help you break down complex issues into manageable pieces.
Mediation—like nearly every aspect of the divorce process—comes with some misconceptions. Clearing them up can help you make informed decisions that preserve your best interests.