Even if you are the one asking for it, divorce is a tough subject. If your spouse probably does not want to split up — or even if they do — bringing up divorce can be hard. To make it go smoothly, it is important to be compassionate when you break the news. 

This is especially true if you have children. In many ways, a low-conflict divorce is far better for them. You do not want the children to feel like they have to pick sides. You need to remember that your ex is still their other parent. They have a relationship. It is in your children’s best interests for both of you to set any hard feelings aside and be as kind and civil to each other as you can. That starts from the moment you bring up the divorce and continues for the rest of your life. 

You also want to reduce conflict for your own sake. The divorce process takes compromise. It may come in deciding how to split up the time with the kids. It may happen while dividing your assets. You and your spouse are going to have things you do not agree on, and you are not both going to get everything that you want. You need to work together and learn to give a little bit in order to have a successful divorce.

If you are compassionate from the very beginning, your spouse is more likely to work with you and be willing to compromise. You will keep the tension level low and it can actually make the divorce both faster and easier. 

As you move forward with your plans for divorce, make sure you are well aware of the legal steps you need to take and contact an experienced legal advocate for assistance.