When you have children with someone, you’re effectively attached to that person while the children are still minors. Just because you go through a divorce doesn’t mean that you can leave them completely alone. You’ll still have to communicate with each other because of the kids. It’s imperative that you think carefully about your parenting relationship with that person since you’re going to have it for a while.
One of the most important things that you can do during this period is remember that it doesn’t matter what led to the divorce. You have to let go of any romantic feelings that you have for the person so that you can focus on the kids. Your ex can still be a good parent even if they were a bad spouse, so you should only pay attention to their interactions with the children.
You’ll likely still have to work together to make decisions for the kids and support them. Activities like sporting events and school plays are times when the children will probably want both parents there. Being able to remain in the same space as your ex and be respectful with each other can benefit the children in these cases.
One of the ways that you can make things easier with the child custody matters is to have a set parenting plan. You and your ex can work together to set these terms so that you’re able to rely on it when you have questions about what you should do in specific situations. As time progresses, you can modify the agreement to meet the child’s current needs.